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November 10, 2010


Kristina L

I find that organizing what I need to do (making lists, sometimes putting items in folders) helps me with stress sometimes (sometimes I get more stress as I realize I have set too many goals!)

I was an absentminded kid, kind of a daydreamer, so I have learned to make certain rules for myself and follow them. For example, there are normally only 3 places my keys will ever be. A specific pocket (during the day), a specific drawer (at night), and a specific pocket in my purse (if I am wearing clothes with no pockets). It makes it much easier to find my keys (unless they fell out of my pocket). Then I keep my extra car key in my purse (this was very useful the second time I locked my keys in the car) (this second time happened about 10 years after the first time I locked my keys in the car, which was the reason I started keeping the extra car key in the purse in the first place).

My purse only has a few places where it's allowed to be, also. Same with shoes and coat.

Whichever book I'm reading tends to get set down here or there as I put it down to do something that needs two hands, so sometimes I have to re-trace my steps for a while.

I'm hoping the juice I've been drinking lately (http://mulberrystreetjuice.com/index.html) (all natural, just add water and blend) is helping my short-term memory. I think mostly the problem is that sometimes I just don't think about something when I do it :)

Kate Carlisle

Kristina, I do think that organizing is a great way to ease stress. I'm much calmer when everything is in its place. Doesn't happen as often as I'd like it to, though!

I definitely agree that our short-term memory problems may be caused by a lack of awareness of our actions. Hard to remember something when you weren't really aware of it in the first place.

Elaine Viets

Welcome to the Femmes, Kate. I find that sitting by the water and reading is my stress reliever. Loved your blog.

Kate Carlisle

Thank you, Elaine! It's great to be here.

Water soothes me, too. Especially the ocean. The sights, the sounds, the smells all combine to make my stress simply fade away.


I just finished writing a paper on the effects of stress. And ironically I have never been so stressed as when I was trying to get it written for a deadline.

Hank Phillippi Ryan

ANd that, Leslie, is what my junior high English teacher taught us was called "irony."

GOod luck with your paper!

Kate Carlisle

LOL, Leslie! Fortunately, when I write a murder mystery, I don't find myself murdering anyone. ;) Best of luck with your paper! Were there any effects of stress that surprised you?


I think the part that surprised me was how we create so much of our own stress. And how our memories react to that stress as the brain forms memories. That and that I can now spell so many new amazing words for scrabble.

Kate Carlisle

Leslie, Scrabble is a great stress reliever... unless you're losing badly, in which case it makes you want to tear out your hair.

I think it's true that we create our own stress. We can't always control what happens to us, but we can make choices about how to deal with it. Sometimes we make things more important and life-shattering than they need to be. If we don't get a project done on time, the world won't end. We need to learn how to try our hardest to get things done while still accepting that "stuff happens."

Christine Wells

Kate, what a great blog! How interesting that powerlessness is directly linked to stress. I think that must be why we writers are so neurotic!

Oh, how utterly beautiful!! You are so talented. That book and box are exquisite!

Looking forward to the next instalment in your series!

Hank Phillippi Ryan

Hey. Leslie--that's so interesting! (I used to LOVE Scrabble, and thought I was great at it. Then I played with my husband, who is, frankly, WAY too good. So instead of being stressed, we just don't play it anymore! (There's a solution, huh?)

Kate, I always use the Annie Hall line: "La dee dah, la dee dah." It's very useful!

Kate Carlisle

Thank you, Christine! I highly recommend that documentary to writers. It's available on Netflix. I'll be looking for more like it because I found the insights to be profound, truly.

Kate Carlisle

LOL, Hank! The Annie Hall life philosophy.... love it!

Maureen Child

The secret to surviving the stress life throws at you??? IGNORE IT! Yes, I do prefer the view from beneath the sand--or rather the pages of whatever book I lose myself in!

Kate Carlisle

You're so smart, Maureen! Ignoring it is the answer to all of life's problems.

Hank Phillippi Ryan

Thanks so much for being here, Kate! You are terrific...and congratulations on your wild success!

Nancy Northcott

Kate, I'm reading The Lies That Bind now and loving it.

I know I generate stress for myself. I was born with the worry gene and will generally find something to worry about, no matter how obscure, if nothing obvious presents itself.

I try to deal with that by engaging my mind on other things--working crossword puzzles, watching movies where stuff blows up, reading an absorbing book.

Mary S.

Nancy, I think you've hit on the ultimate stress relief - watching movies where stuff blows up. ROFL!!

Kate, I'm looking forward to the new book. It's a great series. Mysteries with books - what's not to like?

Thanks for visiting with us today!


Kate, welcome to the Femmes! And thanks for a great post.

Yup, me, too: staring at the ocean does a lot to calm me down. And also, Nancy, I LOVE the 'sploding movie idea.

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