By Joanna Campbell Slan
- Being right. People who are always right, forfeit their humanity. First off, it shows you’re emphasizing the wrong thing—your perfection. Here’s the simple truth: Humans make mistakes. If you don’t, then we can safely assume you aren’t human. Guess what? Being human makes you lovable. It’s the peephole in door that lets us see who’s standing on our threshold.
- Being first. If your needs are paramount, no one can ever be real around you, because being real means (occasionally) being needy. When you have to be first all the time, you are denying other people the chance to ask for—and get—what they need.
- Being a victim. Okay, bad stuff happens to all of us. Like they say, some days you’re the bug and some days you’re the windshield. Getting mired down in the drama of victimhood is a guaranteed way to spend the rest of your life alone. No one wants to take the chance of hurting you…again. And again. And again. Because it will happen. Most people move on. You need to, too.
- Being too strong to ask for help. If you don’t need anyone, you’ve set yourself up for life alone. We all long to be needed. We love that which we care for. The act of nurturing another human being reaffirms that the giver is worthwhile. Don’t cheat others of the chance to give to you.
- Being chronically unhappy. Those who can’t enjoy life are a real trial to those of us who do. Negative Nellies travel around with their own weather systems, rain-rain-and-more-rain. Eventually people move to another locale in search of a little sunshine.
This Valentine’s Day, instead of giving, you might want to give up…these 5 things.