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March 16, 2011


Maria Lima

>conversational curliques< LOVED this phrase - that's exactly the difference between those of us raised in the south vs. the more northerly of our neighbors. I adore New York, but yeah, no curliques. :)

Re: stocking up on the courtesy? I think you've got metric tonnes of that, m'dear!

Glad you enjoyed your NY trip!

Elaine Viets

I grew up in St. Louis, Charlaine, so I'm sort of southern. My grandma, who spent part of her childhood in Tennessee, used to say, "Manners don't cost you a thing."
She was right. I'd even say lack of manners can cost you a lot.

Joni Langevoort

I, too, grew up with conversational curliques, like "How's your mama and them?", and "Hey, cute shoes!" Bless your heart, it's not too much to expect at least politeness out of the people you encounter, and, if you're lucky, you'll get some curliques.

gaylin in vancouver

I was brought up with Canadian politeness, you are supposed to notice and help someone if they need it, hold doors, say please and thank you. We may not have the curlicues that Southern folk do but we do our quiet best.

And when it comes to rude people, a raised eyebrow can go a long way. And a good glare from my mother can cause good behaviour in an entire crowd!

I find it sad how behaving like a diva has come into vogue. At one time being a diva was a justification for bad behaviour in an individual who deemed themselves worthy of special treatment. It wasn't considered a compliment to be called a diva then, why do so many people want to be diva's now?


While I've spent most of my life in the Northeast and California, and am therefore, more lacking in the conversational curliques, I also think courtesy and politeness make the world go round, and I hate to see how many people have forgotten what they must have been taught as children. Life is just much easier if we treat other people how we wish to be treated.

As a bookseller, I'm happy to report that most authors are polite and well behaved and genuinely seem grateful for having been hosted. But the divas are, sadly, memorable. So was the one author we hosted who arrived "seriously impaired," who apologized later and reported that he'd had a full bottle of wine with lunch before his appearance. He was so drunk, he wrote snotty little messages in the books he signed because in his hammered state, he considered that funny. Politeness and professionalism make the world a better place.

Hank Phillippi Ryan

OH, yes, how many tales of pushy demanding unpleasant ungrateful authors have I heard for booksellers who say: "Just between us..."

(Here in Boston, curlicues often have to do with a specific finger, but we won't go there.)

Yikes. As my mother used to say--probably still does--"Thoughtful consideration of others is the sign of a true lady." I must have heard that a billion times.

Kris, you're so right about the golden rule.

But Charlaine, you are the essence of ladylike. Have a wonderful tour!

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