The Femmes are happy to welcome back publisher and writer extraordinaire DEBORAH ADAMS. She may not consider the fact that she thought up and founded the FEMMES FATALES as her greatest accomplishment, but, aside from it being a very clever idea, I'm sure glad she did! Deb is a great encourager. Today she shares a story that helps us all, readers and writers, look inside to see ourselves ... and embrace the beauty of who we are.
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There’s an ancient text known as the Bhagavad Gita, which tells the story of Arjuna and his encounter with Krishna. Arjuna is a warrior, surveying the opposing armies just before battle. Behind him is the army he leads, composed of his friends and family members. But as he looks across the battlefield, he notices that the other army is composed of … his friends and family members. Being a decent enough guy, Arjuna decides that he will not kill the enemy. He likes them, he loves them, they are his own people. And so he drops his weapon, prepared to walk away.
This is when Krishna steps in to give Arjuna a wake-up call. “You are a warrior,” Krishna reminds him. “It is your dharma, your duty, your life work to fight.”
Of course, this is only a small bite of the larger meal that we get from the Bhagavad Gita. Krishna isn’t really telling Arjuna to go out and kill people; he’s simply reminding him that he has an obligation to do his job (be a warrior) to the very best of his ability, and let the chips (or bodies) fall where they may.
Like Arjuna, we all have our dharma. The baker’s dharma is to make the best possible food; the gravedigger’s dharma is to dig the best possible hole; and the writer’s dharma is, well, to write. Does that mean that we are born knowing how to form a sentence or use commas? Absolutely not! Arjuna wasn’t born with the knowledge he needed to lead an army; the circumstances of his birth and all his life experiences gave him an edge over those whose dharmas were to be healers or singers or mathematicians. Still, Arjuna had to devote many, many hours to learning the mechanics of his profession. (The bakers and singers could have applied themselves to the proper studies and learned to be good warriors, too. It’s called ‘swimming upstream,’ but it can be done.)
A born writer may love stories and books, may envision brilliant storylines or rich characters, but that alone isn’t enough to bring a writer into full realization of her dharma. Arjuna learned to use weapons and strategies, and a ‘born’ writer is also required to study the stories spun by masters in the field and to spend countless hours memorizing rules of grammar and punctuation along with techniques for structuring plot and developing characters.
Arjuna probably never questioned his dharma. He was a warrior, without doubt. Writers, too, always know that they are writers, even if it takes a long time for that knowledge to make its way to the top of our consciousness. After the universe has put so much effort into getting all the pieces in place, wouldn’t it be a shame if Arjuna had gone off to be a mediocre cobbler instead of following his true, glorious dharma? Wouldn’t it be a shame if those who are meant to be writers –and you know who you are—never sat down at the keyboard and claimed their destinies?
Ponder it. Then go write. Thanks so much, Deb! Femmes and Friends, what secret calling have you often pondered?
Love this way of looking at our jobs and other callings.
With writing these days, we have so much to think about on the business side of things. It's easy to get unbalanced and forget what a joy it is to be in the middle of a story!
Posted by: Mary | January 31, 2014 at 08:47 AM
Welcome, Deborah. I wanted to be an artist and live in a walkup in New York. I saw myself suffering for my art, living in a cold-water walk up. Unfortunately I have no artistic talent. I became a writer instead -- much more fun and no cold water walk up.
Posted by: Elaine Viets | January 31, 2014 at 02:03 PM
Welcome, Deborah. What a great fable! Thanks for sharing it. I think I'll spend a little more time with my dharma now, rather than cutting out early on a Friday afternoon as I planned.
Posted by: krisneri | January 31, 2014 at 03:13 PM
When I first started writing my new books, I said to my agent--what should I do? And she said: Ask the universe. I do so, every day.
Thank you, Deborah. This is so--important..
Posted by: Hank Phillippi Ryan | January 31, 2014 at 06:20 PM
It's so easy to lose track of our path and go shopping instead, isn't it? But writers (especially you Fabulous Femmes!) have a special path. It's so important that you put your words out there -- what you write will change lives.
Posted by: Deborah Adams | February 01, 2014 at 08:06 AM
It's a privilege to have this dharma, and it's exhilarating to succeed at it, at any level. People shouldn't ask how to "become" a writer. You either are, or you aren't. Right?
Charlaine
Posted by: Charlaine Harris | February 02, 2014 at 11:44 AM
Welcome, Deborah! I've learned, you can't escape your dharma. I wanted to be a writer when I was very young, but didn't want to get into the bar fights and adventures I thought you needed for "experience." Archaeology was another dharma, but it led to writing, eventually. Inevitably? Thanks for sharing.
Posted by: Dana Cameron | February 07, 2014 at 07:56 AM