by Donna Andrews of the Femmes Fatales.
It's that time of year again—the very last time of the year. In less than 24 hours, 2018 will be in the rear view mirror, and we'll all have a bright, shiny new year to play with.
So how am I spending this last little bit of 2018? The same way I usually spend December 31—trying to convince myself that it's neither possible nor necessary to finish every single project I wanted to have finished this year.
There's an old superstition that it's bad luck to clean on New Year's Day. That if you clean that day you'll sweep all the luck out of the house. That if you do laundry, you'll wash a year of good fortune down the drain. Then there's the superstition that the way you start the year is the way the year will go. And I'd really like to have a clean, well-organized house for 2019. You can see the inherent contradiction. I can't possibly start the year with a clean, well-organized house unless I do a more cleaning and organizing today than is really possible in 24 hours. More like 14 by now.
I also want to have a complete, detailed outline for the book I'm about to start writing. And I want to have all my bills paid (and in the mail for those few I still pay by check) and my checkbook balanced and all the receipts for 2018 deductible expenses logged. I want to have all my filing done. And my email inbox at zero. The paper inbox, too. The last few presents, for friends I will see soon, wrapped. The apple crisp and the pumpkin pie made for family celebrations.
If I'd done a better job at 2018, I'd have sold or donated all the stuff I've decided to sell or donate. I'd have already finished updating my website so the designer can start the long-overdue revamp. I'd have planted all those bulbs that will now probably have to go into pots for the time being, unless the ground is still unfrozen. Haven't even had time to check. And the pruning and yard tidying would be done and--
You get the picture. Much undone that I wish were done.
So maybe it's time to forgive myself for what I didn't get done in 2018 and focus on what I did accomplish, and set some reasonable goals for the new year.
Note that I said goals—not resolutions,. The problem with resolutions is that we think of making and breaking them—and once they're broken, they're not bright and shiny and pristine, and there's a tendency to decide to say “I'll try again next year,” or at least, “I'll give myself a break until February 1.” And then March 1, and April 1. If I want anything done, I don't make a resolution—I set a goal.
Unlike a resolution, goals don't get broken. They just hang up there, leading you on, sometimes seeming almost unattainable—except that you know if you keep plugging away, maybe you'll get there. Probably you'll get there. Almost certainly, if you set reasonable goals and then nibble away at them, breaking them down into small, doable tasks, and then doing those tasks, day after day, until you reach the goal.
It's how I write books. I don't set out every day to write a book. I set out to write the number of words I've set for myself to write that day. I know if I keep doing that day after day, eventually I'll have a book.
So instead of fretting that the whole house isn't yet perfectly tidy and organized, I'll put in a down payment on a clean house with an hour or two of work. And while I do it, I'll get in some thinking. About 2018. The good parts. The bad parts. How to have more of the former in 2019.
(In case you haven't noticed, this is a pep talk. To me, as much as anyone else.)
So how are you spending New Year's Eve? What do you want to leave behind from 2018? What are you looking forward to in 2019?
The pictures in this blog are all ones I took during 2018 and used in my 2019 calendar. I'll be giving away copies of the calendar--to win a copy, leave a comment here or on Facebook about how you're spending your new year's eve, and I'll draw three winners at random!